A young divorced woman, Na’ima Hudu, has stirred mixed reactions on social media after openly stating that she would never advise any woman to walk out of her marriage, no matter how abusive it may be.
In a heartfelt post on her Facebook page, Na’ima shared her personal experience, explaining why she left her marriage but also why she won’t tell others to do the same. According to her, leaving a marriage—especially an abusive one—is a personal decision that only the woman involved should make.
Na’ima wrote: “I’m a young divorced lady. However, no matter the complaints [or] maltreatment you get from your spouse, know that I will be the last person to ever advise you to leave your marriage. Wallahi, even if you’re my sister [and] I come to your house and meet her with broken eyes and lips, I will never ask you to leave your husband as it is your sole decision to make and not mine.”
She went further to admit the emotional and financial struggles she has faced since leaving, saying: “I made my own decision by leaving, damned all consequences, ready to face the challenges and cared less about what people would say. No be mouth them dey tell blind man say rain dey fall.”
The post triggered a wide range of reactions. While some praised her honesty and boldness, others felt she shouldn’t be silent in the face of domestic violence.
One commenter, Muhammad Isah, said: “You’re beautiful but you should go and seek your husband in the community not platforms.”
Another user, Zaynerb Bayero Aliyu, backed her view, saying: “Apt. The advice I never gave and will never. I made my decision, they should make theirs.”
But not everyone agreed. Babalola Taoreed said: “Well, Sister Na’ima, as far as I am concerned, I won’t hesitate to advise those in toxic relationships – both male & female, to run o!”
In a follow-up post, Na’ima also advised against hosting big weddings just to please people. She shared that she went for a simple ceremony in her previous marriage and encouraged others to avoid going into debt for show.
Her posts have continued to spark conversations about marriage, divorce, and societal pressure—especially for women in conservative communities.
