Myself and siblings grew up in an atmosphere whereby no day passed without quarrel in our house.. We thought it was our dad that caused it while we were little. To the extent that they started fighting, beating and cursing themselves.
It continued for 7years until my dad stopped beating my mum because he was already tired of the relationship. Until we attained an age whereby we began to know the cause of the beatings and quarrelling. It was my mum. Her mouth is that of razor, sometimes I wonder what made my dad still go ahead to marry her. Coz there’s a saying character is like smoke it doesn’t hide, he must have seen the signs but still went ahead to marry her.
She has a way of thinking that its so annoying, baseless and useless. Very provoking. She doesn’t have friends coz she can’t keep or maintain that relationship.
She the type that doesn’t care if her family is disgraced by her actions, she’s the type that can go at any length to destroy things until she destroys it her mind won’t rest.
Sometimes I wish she never bore me. I have received countless beatings and curses from her because I couldn’t bear the humiliation she has done on my dad and us as a family. She sees everyone that don’t support her actions as enemies. I so much hate her.
She can’t be told information on what my dad does if not its war that day. I and siblings keeps our mouth shut when it comes to the whereabouts of our dad. My dad tells us all his movement and I’m like this is what is supposed to do to his wife. But what can I say. I can’t blame him. But he married the wrong person.
We either live in fear or in lies just to make peace rain. My dad makes sure he’s extra careful that she doesn’t know his movement. My dad has planned out everything for us to make progress and succeed in life but my mum destroys every attempt. She doesn’t know how to manage funds, for 3 years my dad spent over 3million on a business for her. She can’t account for the money neither can progress be seen in her business, she is the definition of mismanagement.
My question is this why is she like that, she does things that doesn’t make us progress an inch, sometimes I wish she was dead so fast as she’s a night mare in our lives. She herself is not enjoying situation.. How much does she have… You know the funny thing… She wants to have a life but she can’t keep one.
And my thoughts have been when I get enough money I’m going to separate them. She doesn’t respect my dads family but carries her own family up ..I mean her parents.. She curses my dad virtually every time and she’s still the same person that will ask my dad to give her money and my dads provides her the money whenever she needs it… Once she gets it she rain curses on him.
It got to a time I decided not to marry not until I saw women with good characters. Whenever I come across a lady the first I look out for for the first 3months of knowing her are likely characters my mum possesses. The moment I discover such I move away.
My mum is a torn in my flesh. And I’m scared my sisters are having one or two traits of her even though they never support her actions and moves. I can’t marry a woman like my mother. I can never even if its gonna make me wait I can’t rush into marriage.
I have learnt enough from my parents marriage its a disaster. If not that men like my dad who are so sincere to the last. I’m sure he would have abandoned us if not for his love.. He is the kind of father u would ever wish for.. His everyday regret is marrying a woman that instead of building his dreams with him scattered it.
Guys watch ur lady especially u that want to get married. If u notice signs u don’t like talk to her about it. If she’s adamant.. Leave her or else u live a life of regret.
Women are dangerous, only few made me change my decision and notion about marriage.
