Okay, so I spent a couple of hours reading the alleged ‘rape’ case of a certain Unilag girl on Front Page yesterday, and the comments made me want to share my own rape story. I know it might sound funny that a guy is talking about being raped, and no, I didn’t say NO when she started having sex with me, but I didn’t totally consent either.
I will try and make the story as short as possible, but make sure to drop all necessary details.
It was a Saturday morning sometime in 2014…I woke up with a terrible hangover. The day before was Friday, and I had received a call from someone I was owing 200K. I couldn’t come up with it as the business I used the money for didn’t go as planed. After explaining myself to him for like 5 minutes, he was silent for a while, and then asked that I meet him at out usual drinking spot.
We met at the rooftop bar in Akoka (Lagos) around 8 pm that day, and there was a party going on so he decided we go to a Shawarma joint close by where they sell spirit/liquor also. I was feeling bad for not being able to pay him his money, so I drank excessively. The last thing I remembered was when he ordered the second bottle of Magic Moment (It was just both of us drinking). And then I heard all my ‘drunken master’ stories the next day.
So, I was on my bed, that Saturday morning, nursing my hangover when I heard my brother and his friend driving out. (we were staying in a three bedroom apartment…me, my bro, and his friend). Then I heard a girl shout out, “what will I be doing all by my myself.” And then my brother’s friend told her to ask the guy in the other room to switch on the TV/DSTV for her. I didn’t want her to come and disturb me, so I went out in towel (I was too weak to wear a top), greeted her, turned on the TV, and walked to the bathroom. I brushed my teeth, took a quick shower, and went back to my room.
I was about dozing off when I felt someone standing in front of me. I opened my eyes and there she was…in the sexy black mini gown she had obviously worn out to club with my brother’s friend the night before. Then she asked if everything was okay. I narrated my story to her, and she said sorry. I closed my eyes thinking she would go away, but she came and sat on my bed. I opened my eyes again, and she said “please can I lie down beside you?” I swear, I was wondering what was happening, if maybe I wasn’t hearing well. This girl had those cleavage revealing gowns on, but even at that, I was too weak to think of sex or anything.
So, I turned my back to her on the bed, and was about sleeping (I was really weak) when she tapped my shoulder. When I turned around, she didn’t say anything, she just kept staring at me, and then she leaned in and started kissing me. She then went ahead to loosen my towel, and started stroking ‘junior.’ I was too mesmerized to do anything, as nothing like this had ever happened to me before. Ofcos it wasn’t like I was inexperienced sexually, but I am an introvert, and have never been good with getting girls, so the whole thing was just starnge to me. When ‘junior’ got hard, she wanted to get on top and insert it in her, but I stopped her. There are always condoms under my bed…I pulled one out…wore it,and let her do her thing.
I still remember, my room curtain was tied in a knot…she loosed them so that the kids playing outside wouldn’t see as she was riding me. She rode me for about ten minutes, and when she came, she got off me, and left the room. She came back to greet me when she was going in the evening. And that was it. I never saw her again.
Yea, I didn’t tell her no, and I didn’t push her away, but seriously, I didn’t consent to the sex. People would say I had an erection. Which guy won’t have an erection if a busty half nakedd girl starts giving them a hand-job in bed. Some would say I stopped to put on a condom. I was too weak to stop her, and ofcos I was already aroused, but mentally, it is registered in my brain that I should never have sex without condom, so that was more of a mechanically move.
Everything I narrated above is 100% In the end, I believe I was raped that day.
