I travelled out of the country to Boston for a course about a year ago. As a smart guy, i discharged all my Naija female packages and ventured into the ‘New world’ a free man. However, to cut the long story short, i met a lady of Jamaican descent that i fell in love with. It was love at first sight, and we supposedly bonded. She invited me to her church,
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Hello guys,
I travelled out of the country to Boston for a course about a year ago. As a smart guy, i discharged all my Naija female packages and ventured into the ‘New world’ a free man. However, to cut the long story short, i met a lady of Jamaican descent that i fell in love with. It was love at first sight, and we supposedly bonded. She invited me to her church, introduced him to her family, and even suggested they get married weeks after meeting, supposedly to make us to be together without sin. As a Naija guy in a Trump infected society, i gladly agreed. To me, this was too good to be true, and i felt on top of the world. However, like they say, if its too good to be true, it probably isn’t. The first signs that something was wrong was when i realised her mother requested for a ring of high value to give her. The ring i brought was, according to the girls mother, not of quality value, and enquired how i got it.Na so the girl just start to de para for me o.. Back to back nagging… i venture into an expensive ring.And this was the first red flag. Next, girl agreed to still go ahead with the marriage, but started using foul language with me o, which i tried to caution her against using on several occasions. Within this period, the girl got pregnant, and since we were gonna get marriage soon, it didn’t matter. However, her behaviour became irritating day by day, always trying to dictate to me o and all. Then it happened one day… We had a big argument and she said she was done. This was a day to our engagement, but she said we were gonna end the relationship. After intervention from the mother and grandmother, she changed her mind.
Overtime, the crazy back and forths continued… She’s done, pastor and family come between them and she changes her mind. All the while, i had started doubting her mental stability, and was concerned that her unstable nature could just lead to a divorce anytime, which was bad.. Eventually, we had a terrible argument, where she called the corps on me.. thank God I’m legal with my Student visa!!! she promised to make sure i pay for child support even though we are not married. She also promised to make sure she deports me back, and make my life miserable. Mind u, the girl is in the US Navy and studied Law. This argument was the straw that broke the camels back, i just had to end it,especially with later threats of her killing me. Now, I’m concerned about her threats, and the prospect of paying child support till the baby is 18. What do you advise him to do biko?
I asked for advice and was adviced to marry her… Story continues……
We got married, and she practically turned him to a slave…if i paraventure ask her a question…she will just keep insulting me and my family plus my country for no reason… like you deaf, you going bk to your crazy country… you’re a sperm donor.. do as i say you asking questions like a bitch… All this is after doing everything im the house and also wake him up in the middle of the night to prepare food for her… which he did without complaining. The one that break the camel back was when i told her all what i have been doing for you… at least i deserve accolades or thank you.. she grabbed me by the neck and she took her hands off. Then i knew it’s finished…. i was subjected to sleep on the bare ground that night… and the next day i was looking at resolving what ever grudges she had on me… i was trying to talk to her…. the next thing she did… was to scream at me to leave her…then she called 911 on me. And they took me out of the house. That was super extreme. Then i knew I’m on my own. I slept on the street in the dark in BOSTON. This time i knew i had to fight back. I reported the physical assault incidence… and now i have been informed that the case is going through hearing this month, however, she’s not aware of any court case.
AND THE ANNOYING PART IS THAT SHE REFUSED TO FILE FOR ME!!!
I don’t know what to do… i have all the messages where she called me a sperm donor and the rest… i even have hospital records that shows I’m emotionally distressed with the traumatic event.
What should i do…. Matured advice please.
