A recent bride in a letter to Slate ’ s advice columnist Dear Prudence ( Mallory Ortberg) , narrated what her husband ’s best friend / best man/ officiant did at their wedding .
According to her, John * had the audacity to propose to his girlfriend and announce that they were expecting a baby at their wedding . She said he even found a way to make the entire ceremony about them.
She wrote :
My husband’ s best friend proposed to his girlfriend during our wedding ceremony :
My husband and I started dating , got pregnant , had a child , moved in together , bought a house, and got a dog in that order . Our friends and family have asked us for years why we weren ’ t married yet . We always pushed it off to build better lives .
We ’ ve done really well for ourselves and finally reached a point where we could afford a huge blowout wedding to celebrate our lives with everyone we know and love . My husband’ s best friend , “ John, ” was the best man / officiant . The setting was beautiful, everyone seemed happy , our families were overjoyed . My mom may have used the phrase hallelujah a few dozen times. The entire atmosphere felt moving .
So moving in fact that John stopped mid- ceremony to propose to his longtime girlfriend , “Jane ,” and reveal her pregnancy. I couldn ’ t even hear the vows my husband wrote or the rest of the ceremony over the noise of Jane’ s happy sobs, her very surprised family who were also guests , and people seated nearby congratulating her.
Even the videographer cut to her frequently during the ceremony , and you can’ t hear anything over the chatter . When John gave his toast , he apologized for being caught up in the moment , and then proceeded to talk about he and Jane ’s future with nary a mention of us . During the reception John and Jane became the primary focus of our guests .
John even went out of his way to ask the band for a special dance for just him and Jane on the dance floor . I ’ ve never been an attention hog , and I wouldn’ t even have minded if he ’ d proposed after the ceremony , but weeks later I am still seething . I am so shocked and angry that I keep asking myself if this is real life .
My husband hasn’ t spoken to John since the wedding , and our mutual friends think what he did was rude but that my husband should just get over it . My husband has joked that he ’ ll resume his friendship when John and Jane give him a $ 40, 000 check for “their half of the wedding . ” Do you think John’ s behavior warrants the end of a long – term friendship , or we are angry over nothing .
