Published On: Thu, Apr 20th, 2017

“I Live In America; Why Don’t Men Approach Me?”


By a troubled reader:

I am a Nigerian living in America (somewhere in the South) and men never seem to approach me. Not even black men approach me, or at least only one has. People tell me I have a babyface and it doesn’t help that I am a petite girl. People always ask me for my age all the time. 5’6 and weigh 125 lbs and I am 21 and in college. I don’t go to bars or nightclubs.


I am not an ugly girl because strangers call me beautiful/pretty. I have Sudanese men ask me if I am Hausa and that I am really attractive. One Sudanese man asked if I have a bf and when I told him I never had one before he was surprised and said I was really pretty and said that he sees ugly women with bfs all the time. Or sometimes on the street, a man will say I am beautiful but still never approached.

I am confused as why when I go out shopping or anywhere other than bars or clubs, I am never approached by a man?

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- Emeh James Anyalekwa, is a Seasoned Journalist, scriptwriter, Movie producer/Director and Showbiz consultant. He is the founder and CEO of the multi Media conglomerate, CANDY VILLE, specializing in Entertainment, Events, Prints and Productions. He is currently a Special Assistant (Media) to the Former Governor of Abia State and Chairman Slok Group, Dr. Orji Uzor Kalu. Anyalekwa is also the Abia State President, Association of Online Media Practitioners of Nigeria (AMPON)